Turn the word 'no' to your advantage. The two main reasons for this are:
One - why would you allow the negative influences or the beliefs and behaviours of others, that do not belong to you to, influence you?
Two - because 'no' gives you feedback and allows you to make decisions; decisions that will keep you going way beyond where others give up. And as you do so, you are learning something very valuable in HOW NOT to achieve something, which is very useful in helping you to find HOW TO achieve it.
Chris Eubank, the finely attired, monocle wearing, self proclaimed Lord of Brighton and world champion boxer, provides a glorious and humble demonstration of turning ‘no’ to his advantage.
Eubank is known for his confidence, concentration, composure and extravagant behaviour as well as his unorthodox and awkward fighting style. His antics included a leap over the top-rope into the ring before each fight to his theme tune of Tina Turner's ‘Simply the Best’ and posing and posturing, particularly between the rounds of fights. Eubank is noted for his bravery in the ring and his iron chin, which enabled him to take considerable amounts of punishment from opponents.
Here is a guy with a professional record of 45 wins (23 KOs), 5 losses, and 2 draws, who held the WBO middleweight and super middleweight titles, holding victories over four world champions in a career that spanned thirteen years. He was a world champion for over five years, undefeated in his first ten years as a professional, and remained undefeated at middleweight. Simply the best.
He has an eccentric personality which makes him one of the most recognisable celebrities of the period and a worthy qualifying contestant on the ITV show ‘I’m a celebrity, Get me Out of Here!’ Faced with an array of people he might not usually hang out with, he immediately came into conflict with some of the other unusual characters. When finally being voted off, he said the most extraordinary things to the two people he clashed most with:
‘Thank you, I’ve learned lessons because of you.’
‘You’ve taught me more than you could ever know.’
and he meant these nicely, humbly and genuinely.
When questioned on how he felt about being voted off, he simply said:
‘Real champions are defined by how they lose.’
He finished by stating:
‘Everything is an opportunity.’